Nov 28, 2023
There's a growing body of research that suggests porn addiction is on the rise. Jeremy Lipkowitz, a former porn addict, now dedicates his life to helping others overcome their struggles. As a meditation instructor and digital habits expert, Jeremy is committed to guiding men on a journey of mind mastery and the development of fulfilling relationships.
He helps men combat porn addiction and carve out a life filled with purpose and integrity. His work has been featured in publications like Men's Health Magazine and Livestrong. He also pioneered the Unhooked Recovery program, a 30-day transformative experience aimed at breaking the chains of addiction.
Jeremy's background as a Buddhist monk and his credentials as an ICF-certified Executive Coach underpin his approach. Join us as we dive into a conversation with Jeremy, who is here to share his insights on achieving personal mastery and peak performance, through the power of self-love and scientific principles.
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[04:51] Jeremy started looking at porn at a young age and overtime it progressed to addiction.
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[07:18] The negative effects of porn addiction build up over time.
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[08:17] Jeremy shares when he realized that porn was a problem.
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[10:57] He realized that he would never be happy if he was always craving sex with new people.
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[11:25] Suffering is the feeling of wanting something you don't have. He was creating this suffering by watching so much porn.
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[12:18] He was creating super highways of lust.
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[12:54] One of the things that porn does is make you addicted to novelty, instead of cultivating a deep relationship with a person.
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[13:59] Meditation is a way of training the mind.
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[18:36] Mindfulness is a present moment of awareness of what is happening in an open and spacious way that's not trying to push any experience away or hold on to any experience.
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[19:13] Awareness of any of your senses or an emotional state and the orientation you have towards that experience.
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[21:53] Awareness is 90% of transformation.
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[23:08] Jeremy practices Vipassana, or insight meditation. At a retreat, you do nothing but sit and walk for 10 days. You are really present with what's happening.
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[25:45] You feel a deep peace when you don't need anything more.
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[29:05] Jeremy has spent 10,000 hours watching porn, and he knows what it is like. He's put in the work, and it's his life's passion to help people with addiction.
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[37:18] Porn takes away the sexual energy that you're giving your partner and puts it into porn.
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[37:55] If you can stop for 30 days, you likely aren't addicted.
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[41:10] Letting go of shame is important. A lot of Buddhism is just looking at what are and aren't wholesome mind states to cultivate.
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[48:06] Mindfulness helps with recovery by giving you a choice about how you want to live.
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[51:03] Jeremy shares his morning routine.
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